Bishops fault Adeboye over advice on marriage, cooking

Clerics under the Ecumenical Synods of Bishops, Archbishops, Apostles and Senior Clergy have disagreed with the General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God, Enoch Adeboye, over his advice that men should not marry women who cannot cook.

Adeboye made the remark during the May edition of the Holy Ghost Service, where he offered marital guidance to young men, stressing that practical considerations and spiritual discernment should take precedence over physical attraction.

He warned that marrying based solely on beauty could be risky, urging men to prioritise domestic competence and moderation in lifestyle choices, including spending on weddings and personal appearance.

Reacting, the International Secretary of the bishops’ body, Osazee William, described Adeboye’s position as a personal opinion rather than a scriptural requirement.

“Is it scriptural for a man not to marry a woman who cannot cook? Even men can cook. This is not opposition but an opinion,” he said in an interview.

William, who also leads the International Fellowship of Ecumenical Ministries, argued that cooking ability should not be a major criterion for marriage, emphasising that character, values and industriousness are more important.

He noted that such skills can be learned over time and should not outweigh other qualities.

“What about someone who can cook but lacks good character? Marriage should be based on godly and responsible behaviour,” he said.

He further pointed to changing economic realities, noting that many women now serve as breadwinners and may not always have time for domestic duties, suggesting that families can adapt by hiring help where necessary.

Adeboye had also cautioned men against entering marriages that could lead to financial strain, particularly where prospective brides insist on expensive wedding ceremonies. He additionally warned against excessive focus on physical appearance, urging men to look beyond outward beauty when choosing a partner.

The differing views highlight ongoing debates within religious circles over evolving social roles and expectations in marriage.