Beverly Osu: Why I didn’t cry when my father died

Popular Nollywood actress, Beverly Osu, has disclosed the reason behind her unsober mood when she lost her father.

Beverly said her father neglected her while growing up, noting that her mother acted as “daddy and mummy” to her and other siblings.

The actress said this in a recent interview with media entrepreneur, Beverly Osu.

The former Big Brother Naija housemate said: “My mum acted as daddy and mummy, so the boys expected so much from her. I feel the boys really wanted so much from her.

“She was our guardian and protector. She always comes for our PTA meeting and was always available. My brothers couldn’t believe she could ever make that kind of mistake.”

Speaking about the neglect she faced with her dad while growing up, Beverly said: “My dad was in Surulere while we were in Ojuelegba, and he never really came by. I chose my dad over my mum, but he disappointed me.

“My mum returned to us in 1999, having been away for like two years. She came back, and said she was leaving my dad. She told us to pick who we would be going with, so it doesn’t look like she took his children without their consent.

“You know now, me that I’m free spirited, I went with my daddy. I thought I could have chilled with daddy because mummy was very strict. My dad then said, ‘oh, go with your mum I will come and visit you.’ That was the first disappointment. I believed in my dad, but he never came.

“My dad has his problems, he is egocentric. The first time he came, he came to see me in my new school, then he showed up again while I was in the university. He just showed up to use me to brag.

“Also, when I came back from Big Brother, his was the first phone call I received when I put on my phone. I picked up and he said, ‘You have to come and start taking care of me’. I was like, ‘okay dad, I will call you back’. I have forgiven him. I buried him nicely, but I didn’t cry when he died.

“We never got to talk about how I felt when he was alive because anytime we met it was more about how he wanted to be, and more about him, so I listened.”

On how her background affected her life, Beverly said: “I think I have outgrown the daddy issues, but I have always dated guys way older than I am.

“I don’t think it is daddy issues, I feel that I am surrounded by boys, and all the men in my life are confident. If we must be together you have to be confident enough to stay in the midst of family.

“In the past, I always wanted to date people who could control me. Even my girlfriends are standalone chics. I love confident people. She also shared on how her desire to be with older men can be misconstrued to having sugar daddies.

“All the older men I have dated, were boyfriends. I do not want to be another person’s sadness. I love attention, so in that way it has never worked out with another woman’s man for me.”

The Star